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NUN BATTLING KATY PERRY OVER CONVENT SALE DIES IN COURT

Singer Katy Perry poses at Elton John’s 70th Birthday and 50-Year Songwriting Partnership with Bernie Taupin benefiting the Elton John AIDS Foundation and the UCLA Hammer Museum at RED Studios Hollywood in Los Angeles, California, U.S. March 25, 2017. REUTERS/Danny Moloshok

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Nun Battling Katy Perry Over Convent Sale Dies In Court
Hours before her death, Sister Catherine Rose Holzman asked the singer to “please stop” trying to buy the property.

By Hilary Hanson

A nun involved in a legal battle over Katy Perry’s bid to buy a Los Angeles convent collapsed and died during a Friday court appearance related to the dispute.

Sister Catherine Rose Holzman, of the Sisters of the Most Holy And Immaculate Heart of the Blessed Virgin Mary, was 89, according to ABC 7. Her cause of death was not immediately clear.

Holzman was among the nuns fighting for the ability to sell their former hilltop convent in Los Feliz to local businesswoman Dana Hollister — a desire in direct opposition to the Archdiocese of Los Angeles’ wish to sell the property to superstar Katy Perry.

The nuns, who haven’t lived in the property since 2011, sold the convent to Hollister in 2015. The L.A. archdiocese subsequently sued her, saying the sisters didn’t have the authority to sell the convent. Perry spent more than $2 million in legal fees fighting the small group of elderly nuns, according to Curbed LA.

The convent boasts gorgeous views of the San Gabriel Mountains and downtown Los Angeles. Hollister had plans to turn the convent into a hotel, while Perry reportedly wants to live there.

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Pop star Katy Perry spent more than $2 million fighting a group of elderly nuns for the ability to purchase their former convent.
In 2016, a judge sided with the archdiocese and Perry and invalidated the sale to Hollister, clearing a path for Perry to buy the convent. In November of last year, a jury found that Hollister had intentionally interfered with the sale to Perry and a judge ordered her to pay millions to the archdiocese and the singer.

The nuns fear that because Perry’s $14.5 million offer was made to the archdio receive any money from the sale, Billboard reported in 2015. They also have issues with the singer herself.

“Katy Perry represents everything we don’t believe in,” Holzman told Billboard. “It would be a sin to sell to her.”

At the time of Holzman’s death on Friday, she was in court for a post-judgment hearing on the case, TMZ reports.

Just hours before she died.

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Toxic affects of emotional neglect, parental self absorption and narcissism.

Emerging From The Dark Night

Here is a list of unconscious behaviors and traits we develop in the situation of chronic emotional neglect or if we were raised by self absorbed or narcissistic parents :

Developing self destructive defence mechanisms which inclued, displacement, repression of feeling and effects, denial of affect, withdrawal and isolation, projection and addictions (destructive self soothing defences.)

Acting against the self due to the fact you have absorbed negative perceptions of yourself and taken them into your self which manifests in :

  • self blame,
  • despair (pereceiving you are inauthetic or flawed, unable to help yourself),
  • hopelessness (aligned to despair but more to do with the feeling you cannot improve things or help yourself),
  • helplessness (not knowing what to do or say, not being able to act to assert in the face of injustice, or prevent abusive acts against the self, repeating similar mistakes),
  • Devaluing the self
  • Overvaluing the self (as a…

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Psychology for Writers: Narcissism

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The term ‘narcissism’ comes from Greek mythology, where beautiful, proud Narcissus fell in love with his own image in a pool of water. It’s not a story with a happy ending because unable to leave, Narcissus wasted away and died. But the two-sentence story neatly captures the core tenants of narcissism – it’s a preoccupation with ourselves that can ultimately mean less than favourable outcomes.

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Behind the Narcissist Mask: The Bully, Coward, Liar and Fraud | HuffPost

It’s not nice to call names. But when it comes to narcissists, calling them out is really a matter of survival for those dealing with their abuse, as wel…

Source: Behind the Narcissist Mask: The Bully, Coward, Liar and Fraud | HuffPost

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Julie L. Hall, Contributor
Roving writer, author of The Narcissist Family Files Blog

Behind the Narcissist Mask: The Bully, Coward, Liar and Fraud

03/16/2017 09:38 pm ET

TONY WEBSTER, CREATIVE COMMONS

It’s not nice to call names. But when it comes to narcissists, calling them out is really a matter of survival for those dealing with their abuse, as well as for those who don’t understand the profound harm they do. All narcissists wear a mask, or false persona. And when you strip away the narcissist mask you find weakness and vulnerability that would be pitiable if it weren’t so astonishingly vicious.

The Narcissist Mask

But chances are you won’t ever remove the narcissist mask, because he defends it at all costs with a full arsenal of preemptive controlling and abusive tactics. Whether as a young person overvalued with excessive praise and indulgence or undervalued with neglect and/or abuse (or an impossible combination of those parenting styles), the narcissist is in essence an emotionally stunted child with an adult savvy for ruthless manipulating. The narcissist mask is what he wears to assert a face of superiority and entitlement, protecting himself from intolerable feelings of invalidation, otherwise known as “narcissistic injury.”

The Narcissist Bully

Narcissists are classic bullies. They ambush, attack without cause, and prey on the most vulnerable within their grasp, usually those who love and depend on them, namely their spouse and children, who as a result carry lasting emotional and physiological trauma.

Narcissists often also abuse employees, susceptible friends, and “underlings” such as waiters and clerks. Exploiting their power over others in any way possible feeds their endless need to feel superior, and their lack of empathy gives them free range to abuse without the troubling hindrance of a conscience.

The Narcissist Coward

Many of us come out of invalidating (sometimes severely) home environments, but we do not become compassionless sadists. Narcissists are cowards who are fundamentally terrified of themselves and anyone who might see through their mask. Their driving motivation in life is to shield themselves from threatening emotions that trigger their deep-seated sense of inferiority, or narcissist injury.

Often narcissists strike and run, initiating surprise attacks and retreating before being confronted with the consequences of their rage. Narcissists also may behave passive-aggressively, cloaking their rage in self-pitying performances meant to induce guilt and blame.

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Whatever hurtful tactics they use, narcissists virtually never take responsibility for their behavior. Instead, they are masterful at denying and projecting their abuse onto others, most often those they have abused, further exacerbating the harm they do.

The Narcissist Liar

The narcissist mask is a lie designed to protect her from truths she cannot bear. Again, this feels like a pity plea moment, and indeed pity for the narcissist is understandable. But pity for the narcissist is dangerous territory that often leads those already victimized into a position for further abuse.

Narcissists are liars who continuously attempt to control others’ perceptions of them and, when they can’t, resort to nasty, often violent reprisal. The narcissist may cast himself as a highly principled person, but in reality he is only concerned with his own needs and is too weak to face life’s truths, especially those that threaten his defenses. He may talk a good game, but when it comes to the truth, he stonewalls, blames and shames others, and always deflects accountability.

The narcissist may, for example, rage at her son for getting an A- grade instead of an A, because she feels threatened by her son’s academic success, she is angry about a fight she had with her spouse, or she is projecting a self-centered expectation of perfection.

The Narcissist Fraud

Narcissists are by nature frauds who lie, exaggerate, and brag about themselves and denigrate others to bolster their image. They hate themselves but hate others even more, and everything they do is in service of asserting a superior face no matter what reality exists inside themselves or within their family.

A dictionary definition of fraud is

a person or thing intended to deceive others, typically by unjustifiably claiming or being credited with accomplishments or qualities.

Narcissists are classic frauds—at love, parenting, friendship, and any other important relationship in life. Because they lack the ability to recognize and empathize with others’ experiences and emotions, narcissists are incapable of authentic intimacy, kindness, or selfless giving.

Julie L. Hall’s articles on narcissism regularly appear on her blog The Narcissist Family Files and in The Huffington Post and PsychCentral.com. She is the author of the forthcoming memoir about life, and a few near deaths, in a narcissistic family (read excerpts).

 

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